Aside from the AR which was not Buffy's fault whatsoever, Buffy knew what she was doing. She might not have liked what she was doing but she continued to do it. She went to Spike of her own volition for sex,
@GoSpuffy gave examples that clearly show Buffy initiating sexual contact between her and Spike on several occasions because Buffy CHOSE to do that. You seem to be trying to whitewash Buffy's role in Spuffy which in turn takes away her agency. Why? Is it because Buffy's a woman and therefore must always be a victim in an unhealthy relationship rather than a participant? Is Buffy incapable of taking responsibility for her own actions and therefore can not be held accountable for what she does. I guess this must extend to Faith too because she's a woman. It can't be her fault that she murdered the mayor's assistant or tortured Wesley because Wesley was a bad watcher therefore it's his fault that Faith doesn't take responsibility for her actions. When Faith does actually acknowledge her wrong doing, she must've bowed to the pressure of victim blaming because how dare a woman take accountability for her own actions of her own volition.
In fact, why are you even watching Buffy? Being a slayer was FORCED on Buffy. she didn't ask for it nor choose it. Therefore, all throughout the show she is pressured and forced into doing something she doesn't want to do, she is being abused! She didn't consent to being a slayer, she is being made to fight vampires and demons because if she doesn't she'll be blamed for the world ending, all because she doesn't let herself get used! How can you watch a show that glorifies the victimisation of a young woman?
Interpretation works both ways.
Where exactly does it say Spike raped? That line could refer to him torturing, killing, even siring girls Dawn's age. Considering that's what he was doing whilst under the control of the first, it would make sense for him to relate his current actions back to something he used to do. Or are you assuming that just because he mentions the victims were female that he automatically raped them because females can't be victims of any other crime than rape?
Get off your high horse. You are trying to twist anything that anyone says which doesn't fall into your line of view into something which is not what the person is saying. Your whole "I'll let all abused women out there that if they refuse to talk about their relationship with their partner, they've brought their abuse on themselves. They'll be so thrilled" is so over the top, it's ridiculous because that is not what anyone saying at all. Let me ask you this, if a woman comes up to you and tells you that she knowingly got involved in an unhealthy relationship because it made her feel better for a little while and she acknowledges her part in that and the fact that she didn't want to talk about it because she didn't want to admit what she was actually doing to her self, would you literally turn around and say to her "I'll let all abused women out there that if they refuse to talk about their relationship with their partner, they've brought their abuse on themselves. They'll be so thrilled"?
Spuffy was one of the worst things to happen to the show IMO because of what they had to do to the characters to make it happen. Both characters were dragged down because of it.
Why don't you bring up and discuss in length what Faith did to Buffy when she stole her body, or how she raped Riley and by extension Buffy because it's her body she used. Maybe how she forced the body swap on Buffy, you know the things Buffy didn't have any say in?
You seem to keep bringing up the balcony scene as the main point of your argument. Putting that scene aside, I challenge you to discuss the rest of Spuffy's scenes in the way you have as one sided (Spike abuser/Buffy victim) and see if it still stands up to scrutiny.
So you're saying domestic cats are evil?
