Why people hate Xander?

[November]

Xander reminds me of the drop kick "nice guys", I just dont enjoy his personality that much. Simple as that.

 

[XanderesqueMan]

It’s because Millennials and Gen X have grown up with a Xander in high school.

Loyal? Loving? Funny? Brave? Kind? I hope so. Everyone should be so lucky.

Also compared to other characters Xander is more ‘bland’. He isn’t a supernatural creature and doesn’t have an ability.

I suppose someone could see him that way. But he is, in fact, the bravest member of the Scooby Gang (given he has no powers or special knowledge, nor is he even a genius) and has been crucial to saving the world literally every time it's been necessary, and Buffy herself many times besides —

• Saved Buffy with CPR in "Prophecy Girl."
• Figured out the Judge could be killed with a rocket launcher in "Innocence."
• He kept Buffy from potentially being killed or taken by Angelus at the hospital in "Killed by Death."
• He didn't tell Buffy that Willow was trying to save Angel, ensuring she wouldn't hold back against Angelus and risk the end of the world in "Becoming."
• He stopped Jack and the zombies from blowing up the school (which would have killed Buffy and the others and allowed the Hellmouth to open) in "The Zeppo."
• His knowledge of military tactics was crucial to defeating the Mayor in "Graduation Day."
• It was his idea to combine Willow, Giles, and Buffy in "Primeval," which defeated Adam.
• He stopped the Bringers from getting Dawn when they assault the Summers house (I can't recall the episode right now, sorry.)
• He was crucial to slowing down Glory in "The Gift."
• He stopped Dark Willow in "Grave."

To name just a few times he's proven indispensible to the gang and Buffy herself.

 

[twoslayers]

The other thing actually about Xander: he hurts the women he's involved with, really needlessly. Hurts Cordelia by having a sort of affair with Willow, hurts Willow just as much (and as a bonus also hurts Oz for that matter), hurts Anya leaving her at the altar. All selfish, all needless. That's a big part of why I see him as kind of a jerk.